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"Brene Brown, a qualitative researcher, studies the science of human connection. She was drawn to the field, she'll tell you, because data allows you to "control and predict." Through data, she could
make the seemingly messy world neat and forecastable. Safe. Or so she thought.
A professor at the University of Houston's Graduate School of Social Work, Brown wanted to discover what separates those who feel connection and belonging from those who struggle to connect.
What she found, after six years of interviews with thousands of people, was that the key to connecting with others and finding meaning in life wasn't having everything under control— until then, her own M.O. for managing her life and relationships. In fact, it was the opposite. It was being open to vulnerability— the dead opposite of control. In analyzing thousands of interviews, she found a pattern among those who felt worthy of belonging and connection, which she termed "the whole-hearted."
What they had in common was what Brown refers to as courage, in the sense of the original definition of the word, "to tell the story of who you are with your whole heart." They had the courage to be imperfect, to risk pain, and above all to share themselves authentically. "They believed that what made them vulnerable made them beautiful," she found. And not only was it the key to connecting, but also the key to innovation, creativity, and change, all of which require willingness to risk a step into the unknown. Vulnerability wasn't a weakness in business, as most had seemed to assume. In fact, it was the most surefire route to success.” - Keith Ferrazzi, Never Eat Alone
“The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are.” - Carl Jung